After having two days of very cold (temperatures in the single digits, with wind chills well below zero) it is actually warming up outside. Today our forecasted high is 12. Yesterday our high was 1. Nice change! Maybe I'll break out the shorts and the sunscreen. With all this complaining of our terribly cold temperatures I do have to confess...earlier this week we had very warm temps. Thursday we even made it to 60 degrees. Gasp!
Not only has it been cold outside, but we've been feeling a bit of a chill in our home as well. I haven't exactly been very happy and cheerful of late and I know my family has been feeling it. Last night Scott and I sat down and had a heart to heart. I told him how it was very upsetting to me that he did NOTHING for my birthday and how, though I may be acting a bit like a spoiled child, I let it get me down. Not to mention the fact of the visit from aunt flo. She never helps! We talked, we laughed, I cried, he rolled his eyes (just kidding, I just had to throw that in there). He told me that he felt really bad that he couldn't do something fancy and elaborate for my birthday due to his busy schedule (bishopric training the morning of my birthday and having the bishop gone and helping a friend with their car that was really in a bind) and the lack of moula after Christmas and missing work to go to Arizona and Utah for the holidays. So his way of dealing with it was to do nothing at all. (I really wanted to tell him that I am so sorry that my birthday came at such an inconvenient time, I would do better next year at planning it around his schedule, but I restrained myself. He felt guilty enough.) I explained to him that I would have been happy with a homemade card. Any attempt at doing something would have been much better in my eyes than just wishing me a happy birthday and spending the day in the garage, without me. He agreed and promised to spend the next year making it up to me. Well, he didn't really say that, but I did manage to make him feel really bad. Not that that was my intention, I just had to get it out.
So today is a much better day. Not only is it warmer outside, the sun is trying to shine, but I feel much warmer inside too. You know that saying, "When mom ain't happy, ain't nobody happy". Let's just say we're all feeling a lot sunnier today!
I started reading a book the other day that has really helped to cheer me up as well. The book is Peculiar in a Good Way by Mary Ellen Edmunds. I love Mary Ellen Edmunds (MEE). She has such a sense of humor that I really relate to and she has a way of making life seem so much better. I highly recommend this book to anyone.
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I will look into that book... after the one I am reading. Thanks for the recommendation!
Not sure if you are in Utah... but if you are, I understand. I am ready for some warmer days.
How sad he didn't do anything for your birthday :( He could have made you a card late at night, or early in the morning at least. *sigh* When I first got married, my husband never celebrated birthdays in his family, so he didn't see what the big deal was. In my family, EVERYONE got together, no matter how old you were, lol. Now, he's better at it. It only takes one missed birthday, then usually they never miss it again. My BIL missed my sisters birthday one year, the next year, I drove six hours, and threw her a birthday party, to show him how to do it. Now she gets a party every year. :D Maybe you need someone else to come and show him how to celebrate the day you were born.
I'm sorry your birthday was less-than-celebrated! How disappointing! I had a similar birthday a few years ago (due to some miscommunication) and it really stunk and I felt sad and juvenile and guilty for feeling so disappointed, but I was, and then I cried in the parking lot of a Sam's club - those huge, out of control, racking sobs due to pregnancy hormones that totally threw my husband for a loop and after I got that out, all was rectified. Moral of this story: No skipping birthdays, especially when your wife is pregnant or PMS-ing.
The MEE book sounds great. I hope you feel better soon!
I'm sad for you for not having any birthday celebrations... or anything. Hope next year is great!
Love Mary Ellen Edmunds. Enjoy the book, and I hope the sun stays shining.
I love Mary Ellen. I got to meet her at a Time Out a couple of years ago. She is so sincere and FUNNY! Hope you like the book.
That stinks that you got no birthday wishes from your hubby. Sometimes they just DON'T GET IT, do they? I find myself wishing once in while that my DH was more like a girl. LOL!
I would have been really disappointed too! Even just spending time with a person can feel like a gift and that didn't even happen! I hope things go better next year.
I had a similar situation a few years ago with Mother's Day. We were watching t.v. the night before at about 9:30 p.m. when my hubby gasped out loud. I knew he'd forgotten to buy me something for Mother's Day. He was too tired to go out at that point so I thought he'd at least make me a homemade card. We even have homemade card software. No, I didn't get anything that day. Then he spent the afternoon watching "Platoon" on t.v. because he'd never gotten to see it as a kid because it was Rated R. What jerk decides to run Platoon on t.v. on Mother's Day? Are they attempting to make couples fight? After seeing people get shot to bits, I was sickened from the violence and left the room. I hung out by myself in my bedroom. And this was the day before I was to be induced with our second baby. Same as you, I just wanted a card and to spend time together. Is that too much to ask?
I think that sometimes when men don't know what to do, they don't do anything at all. Either that or they have a reasoning brain cell that misfires occasionally. Regardless, it still ticks me off, especially when Aunt Flo is visiting or I'm pregnant.
Sorry about my ramble...Thanks for the book recommendation. I'm always looking for books to cheer me up. :)
We are freezing today. Our pipes froze. What a pain!
Doesn't it stink to have a birthday right after Christmas?! I can't tell you how many years SAM has used the "no mun, no fun" excuse for my birthday. SAM was in LA for my birthday. I got flowers and that is it. I have had to give him the old speech that if you can't give a gift, he needs to do something considerate, like a handwritten letter or something of the like.
Our 10 year anniversary is coming up. Ya know what I'm getting? A lawn.
Gina, I hope you enjoy the book. I am not in Utah, but somedays I wish I was.
carrotjello, you are officially invited to come to my house next year to celebrate my birthday. I would love a party! :D
Mary, somedays I feel sorry for men and all they endure (hormones, PMS, etc etc) while loving us women. But on the other hand, we endure much from them too.
Andrea, thanks. I am really enjoying the book.
Nikko, that is cool that you were able to meet MEE. I just adore her.
Suzanne, I like the brain cell misfire explanation. That explains a lot! :D
utmommy, sorry to hear about your pipes. That can be a real pain! I hope it warms up real soon!
a payne, when is your anniversary? Yet another commanality (is that a word? It sounds really cool and should be if it isn't alreay) we share. We celebrate our 10 year this year. A lawn for your anniversary, now that is romantic. Maybe you can have a moonlight picnic of something on the new lawn.
Good for you talking to your husband! YAY! I'm so happy for you, talking always helps, even if sometimes it's difficult.
So, when you say it's warmer outside, I bet you mean it is 30 degrees, right?
Wishing you happy happy days.
NCS
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